be tough

                                                               Be tough

    Everybody  ws fixing the blame ,.............nobody is fixing the problem .
                           We gained nothing but most important thing is that we lost nothing . our life will become a light for someone . choose the path of possibility thinking path , it has never let anybody down .We may quit the path , but the path keeps right on going to happiness ,health ,peace  and prosperity .
                        when the roads are tough the tough person rise to avoid the occasion . they win even though it is difficult but not impossible .It is law of life .Tough people rise to the top in tough times . Faith is the answer of all the inner strength , it gives power to fight all the problems and the feeling that i will win . There is no substitute for the deep faith .Just hold on your faith and you will be a winner .This i believe to follow it ......a strong mental positive attitude to survive .

                                  The main point is very clear that human race or nobody is free from problems .Adesire to think  about a problem - free life is amirage in the desert . we should accept the fact that god never promised a easy life .so be brave and tough , face the problems of life in a more effective way , it could have been worse .sometimes there is not a problembut a decision you have to make is painful ,lack of courage creats aproblem . It is a illusion there is a problem .......no i took a wrong perception . Try to be realistic ,the positive approch has always attracted the positive support from friends and family .
                                    Make a commitment to yourself that i will be happy and enthusiastic , will dedicate my happiness to others so they can learn a lesson in life and be happy ,no matter what the situation is .In fact the three D's play a very important role in our life , desire ,dedication and determination . the desire should be as powerful as a strong wave coming from deep sea bed. people ...who are winner in their life never stop believing in themselves. They have a strong sence of determination . Sometimes emotions make us weak but our dedication to fulfill our desire makes a very simple path . If  dreams are big ..........determination is a tool to make them come true .
                                  Don't be too proud to tell people you need help . Oftentimes we have to choose we want to be successful or to be proud then choose according to intelligence . The hardest words ' i need help ' but use it if other options are not there . Never let a problem become an excuse . Face all short- comings , faults and then find a way .Possibility is a very creative , productive and progressive word . If we analize the power of this single word .....things begin to shin. It creats the atmosphere of creativity and the energy it generates penitrates our mind .Ember takes the shape of flame .
                            A single idea can solve many problems .So always pray ........prayer has a magical power .

              ''     Lord , give me the guidence to know when to hold on and when to let go and the grace to make the right decision with dignity ''
                                                                           unknown

        

Egoic mind

                                                       Egoic mind

forgiveness comes naturally , when you see no purpose other than a false sence of self or to keep the ego in place .
                 Every religion teaches--
                                    Forgive your enemies

      The past has no power to stop you from being present now .Only your grivances about past can do it . The extra baggage of old thoughts and emotions , we always carry with ourselves .Here we can relate it to our ego . Ego is the energy behind brain ...........or what !!!

                                 The fact is we don't know what is all mystry , we cover up the real fact of life ,it is still a unsolved question for human race . Many scholars ,researches have different views but the most important ,relationship in your life is your relationship with your present life or with NOW. The ego ,could be defined simply in one way .........your relationship with present .We can see a person from surface level and make a image of that person .....he or she is very egoist person , but no we are wrong , every person has a ego ,if you are being positive you are humble and simple if you have a inflated ego you are negative but it proves that ego is a unformed energy which gives us power to think .

                  A number of spiritual teachings tell us to let go fear and desire but is it possible while living in this materialistic world ? trying to become a a good and better human being sounds like high minded thing to do yet you can not succeed in unless a shift of consciousness is there . you can not become good by trying it only , you have to bring out the goodness in you . It will emerge only if the basic goodness is there in you . Try to change the state of consciousness or improve the level of your consciousness .
                         The content of the ego varies from person to person but in every human being the same ego structure works . They live on seperation and identification . The egoic mind is completely conditioned by the past . Why ?? the reason is again our past . We suffer from acute prresure of past .
The word 'my ' is structured in our inner self . One of the most basic struture through which the ego comes into existence is identefication . we identify with everything this is 'my ' house ,my home . the identification is cause of attachment and attachment is cause of suffering .
                                       Even in relationships , we use them as a means to self -enhancement , we try to find ourselves through them . we seek appriciation ,admiration , praise to make ourselves happy even for a short span because this happiness can not last long with us . This is a obsession for wanting more and more ,there is no end of it .The unchecked striving for more . It is a negative growth of self or ego .WE need to be    alert and honest to find out , do we really deserve this love and admiration in a relationship with others ?
                                        Some ego know what they want and pursue their aim with a strong will .Therefore wanting keeps the ego alive much more than having .Most ego have conflicting wants .Often they want money ,power ,name ,fame and they will do everything possible to fulfill their desire but at the same time they want peace ,harmoney ,love ,knowledge . So this is intence wanting , that has no specific object . this can be very disappointing sometimes .
                                  Suddenly we loose something very expensive or we lost our spouse and found i am having nothing . In the beginning the anguish and intence fear is so high that we loose the confidence in ourselves or go in a state of self exile . The answer is simple .....this is a sudden collapse of ego , since ego is identification of form , when there is nothing to identify you realize the true identity as consciousness itself  rather than what consciousness had identified with .
                                   Here ego takes a new form , sometimes the new ego will be more rigid and impenetrable than the old one . Whenever tragic loss occurs you either resist or yield . Some people become bitter or deeply hurt and other become wise and loving .
                              Yielding --- you are open to life , you have accepted the fact
                              resistance ---going into shell of false ego , to withstand ,to strive against reality

                                 Coincidence happen ,if you are closing all doors for others God will open new doors for you .The inner- stillness disolves with time .The ego surrenders with time ,love ,care . The ego takes another form of identification . The newness in life begins .The quest goes on.................

different outlook

                                                            Different outlook

When we see things or hear or touch whatever we experience goes to mind and mind filters everything .Every sight , sound and sensation and emotion and every word is analysed by our mind . Every mind is different from each other so the experience of each mind is bound to be different .as a result of this every person has a different perception or experience .This causes conflict and diffenence of opinion. THis is basic of every conflit in the world .We think differently , act differently and judge others action differently . The judgement will be in the propotion of our mind's intelligence The amount of our thoughts our mind generates or you can say the level of our thinking will be directly effected by our own level of consciousness or self , or ego .
                                              
                                            The ego is like bubble through which we see or percieve the world . Thoughts formsof 'me'  'mine' pertain not to content but the strutureof the ego.As long as you don't recognize those thoughts forms with in yoursslf .......you will believe that. no content will satisfy you as long as the egoic structure remains in place . Nobody will be happy because the basic conflict is very much there . By doing so we make every actions with a prejudice mind . It effcts our relationship with others .To bring harmoney and happiness we should always first think cooly and calmly ,stable then think twice before making a final decision . it will avoid many more conflicts in future .

                                 how to keep our mind cool ? this is a big question before us because we are always short of time . The life is so stressful it is very harmful for us   and for the coming generation it will be more difficult to remain unstressful . Being unaware we loose many things in life such as laughing ,smileing and after a days hard work what we watch t,v, ate dinner and sleep . so no useful conversation with family members . it creats a gap of between family members and with children . it is not a healthy way of life .
                                             we should keep the things in a more positive way .adopt a more flexible attitude towards everyone .It is only possible when we are ready to change ourselves. we want everything according to our desire with out making a single change in our behaviour .change is teh basic fact or reality of our life .we rave rant ,beg ,borrow or stealbut satisfaction or happiness is far away from us .we try to change but when that suits us then . no it is not chnage it is only adjustment for the time being . it is not a parmanent base of happiness .
                                               
                                          The most important thing which is in our control  to chnage is our mind .try to change mind by taking the path of acceptence and surrender to the god or the supreme almighty .we can change conflict into compromises, misery into happiness .
                                                    So to make life a beautiful journey that is full of love , care ,empathy we should apply a tecnique and that is Meditation . our minds will be unstressed , free from the daily worries .then we will be able to think on a same mental vave length then all misunderstanding will be dissolved to acertain extent .eventually the basic negative thoughts will be desolved .we would like to converse with each other . agruments will be less because our thinking will be more or less same .
life will not be a bed of roses but even the life will be more comfotable .

                                           Can you feel you are much more intelligent to waste your time and enegy onthis useless topics like conflict ,anger,jelousy no no come out of this and make a planet a better place to live . we are here with amassage .......love all people unconditionlly and be loved by all .

medication and meditation

                                              medication and meditation

 All good things come to them who wait for them .
                             
                                The word medication - the art or science of treating disease by non- surgical means . our health  should be our priority because when we are healthy we lead a normal and happy life . But our body is like a machine and so wear and tear is a part of life . No matter how much we try to be fit and fine but off an on illness knocks at our door . Today we have everything except time for ourselves . So maintaing a healthy life style is a bit difficult . Often we forget that to get all the material gain we neglect our health and the same money we spend on doctors and medicines .In order to live our life worthwhile should always avoid carelessness about our health .The more we compromise on our health , the greater and damage we cause to our body .

                          We have to stop treating our body like commodities with a price tag , protect our health is both process and our duty . It helps us to avoid unneccsary use of medicines . After seeing and knowing what is right for our health and still not doing it shows our intention of not taking our health problems seriously . Too much use of medicines is not a way of leading a healthy life . Eventually we just tired of taking medicines and want some other way to be healthy . Who  are we kidding ? Of course ourselves . Anxiety also comes naturally when we see things are going well for ourselves or for our loved ones . The trouble is that many of our health problems we face today may have been solved more easily if we would have been a little careful . Nevermind acually our body and mind are both are very much connected  and if we have a healthy mind then the chances of falling ill again and again can be reduced to some extent .

                            Here comes the second and most important word of this article -Meditation . What is Meditation ? It is a purely a mental activity , you don't have to put pressure on your mind for anything ......just remember it is only a reconditioning of mind .It brings the mind back the feeling of freshness and oneness . The first step is - stop thinking that life is a stuggle . Meditation means  many different things for different persons .Some do it to get calming effect , some practice meditation for gaining a new experience and pleasure . but one thing for sure it treats sickness of the mind that leads to sickness of our body .
                                What is the real purpose of Meditation ? why we should adopt it ?
         the purpose of meditation is to make our mind calm and peaceful and worryless . Meditation develops awareness among people .awareness is invisible but its effects are visible everywhere . The density of thoughts reduces and then mind is purely in a blissful state . This state is the key for unstressing of our physilogy .Meditation gives relaxation to mind and nutures a healthy balance between outer and inner world.
                                   we only promote spiritual understanding and improve our actions towards a better world .If our mind is healthy and happy from inside it will have a very positive effect on our body . It has been proved by many medical researchs that a meditator is more healthy than a non-meditator . so to make society more healthy and happy in real sence we should adopt meditation in our life style .
                         The shower of cosmic enegy ........the more you meditate the more you  percieve cosmic energy . perpeptually  we will be able to lead a very healthy life .


                    Responsibilty creats a lot of stress and it causes desiese . so being happy and spreading happyness around us is our most important responsbility .
                          in the end allow me to say that mind and body both should be healthy so to avoid medication adopt meditation ............

power of courage

                                                  power of courage

             courage has its own way of expression  . what is a character with out courage ? just like knowledge of everything but not using it , and what courage is if we do not know what and how to implement it . we need courage in every field of life . To lead a happy and honourable life -----the most important thing is courage .True courage .......is to stand unmoved in the most difficult condition . It is a very powerful  trait god has given us .
                                courage gives us the power to move with confidence . First set your goal in life and thenstart moving towards that goal in a constructive way ......a couragious action . we can have difficulties or hurdles , facing opposition or taking risk anything  but having courage on your side you can win and you will be a winner . Lack of courage makes us unsuccessful ,dull, unhappy and gives a feeling of total failure in life .  There is a old saying , " when nature throws a dagger at you there are only two ways to catch it ,either by blade or by the handle ," So living with dignity and courage you have to catch the dagger by its handle . we can see courage in very small things in our daily life even in deaming we need courage .let us see here few examples like courage to face reality ,courage to learn anything , courage to apologise , courage to listen , courage to love and the courage to face rejection also .  Our courage can be our strength in hour of need .
                                  One man with courage makes a majority .
                                                                                                   Andrew jackson

                                 Faith - in ourselves is another form of courage .Faith gives us strength . There is very thin line between wrong ang right .Our belief system provides the knowledge of this . courageous people do the right things even if the path is full of difficulties where as the coward take the wrong way for easy gain . Always make the right choice . False courage is very perilous or full of risks . It is our ability to decide when to move forward and when to withdraw . your faith in yourself helps to turn your dreams into a reality .

                                   courage may be the most important virtue because with out it you won't have the strength to sustain any other value .
                                                                   Maya Angelou

                        The flow of courage comes from inside . It can be cultivated .It is not a virtue that you can have today and gone next day . It remains with you forever if you want a happy , beautiful and complete life . You have to be in a driver's seat for taking the right decisions at the right time . we lose the respect for those people who lack courage . The great thinkers always took the courageous path , that why they are called thinkers .
                                   Cowards die many times before their death ,
                                  the valiant never taste of death but once .
                                                                                                          shakespeare .

being single

                                                                 Being single

      Living  single is a accomplishment not just achievement . Honour and being single has many dimensions . Being single is another way of facing the world with a fresh and  clear perception . All over again you have to start a new  phase of life . Weakness in any area could disrupt living with respect and dignity . A society is nothing but a composite of individuals . In order to live with honour we need  to define our living style . How we want to live ? Being single ......it gives meaning to your life , now what you want to do with your time . we can do whatever we could not do when we were busy or leading  the life with your life partner . But it is not so simple and easy . we go through a lot of mental turmoil .   It is not very easily accepted in our indian society , because from young age woman are protected by father , brother , husband and in latter years if you lost your partner your sons or daughters are supposed to look after you or they become your focal point in life . But  as the  time has changed the financial independent lady wants to lead her life in her own way .
                  I personally feel that everyone is single in her or his life wheather married or having a steady relationship , or live in .........at times you want some peacefull moments with you only . Having people around does not mean that you are not alone . It is a mental state , most peacefull and pure bliss . It is high time you meet yourself . Do some good work , educate children if one can efford , read some good stuff . It uplifts your moral and gives you  inner strength . This state can be very powerfull if we use it in a creative way .It empowers you in the field of spirituality if you have a liking for that . It really gives a lot of satisfaction . A person feels complete , fulfilled which is the ultimate objective of any honourable person .
                             Mythologist Devdutt pattanaik wrote somewhere , Everyone survives in this world . Nature does not judge or discriminate only humans do .We creat insiders or outsiders . Family is natural relation so we are very attached to our respective families but if you are a single woman and want to do something different you have to be a strong person or have a clear vision  about your objective . Always do the right thing even if no one is watching you . Develop a high standard of personal ethics . Meeting people who have clear conscience gives a feeling of comfort . When our value system is clear , decision - making becomes a lot easier even though they may not be easy decisions .
                          Emotionally , single person can be very strong because he or she has to deal with her or his loneliness or solitude .  That requires mental thoughness.  Mental toughness is the ability to see the long term gain . we always go for a short term gain it can be painful. once  we have gained the mental toughness at same moment we gained the winning edge . Life is very beautiful it is the firmness of spirit that meets danger without fear . Fear is a cause of suffering when we are emotinally weak we dont want to come out of our comfort zone .
                                 Can't we live with ourselves ? God never promised us an easy life . Life seems very easy when the going is good but we have to do our best when we feel our worst . It is sad and hurting but life goes like this wheather you take or leave it . Universal love .......adopt this way . There is an old law of nature you will get what you give others . There is a old saying that you will never get in trouble if you say ,'' i love you ' once a day . Think about it .
                                The feeling of satisfaction or shame comes from the purity of relationship . So in any relationship honesty should be maintained at any cost . Lonliness .......we all feel it many times in life but it is a battle and we have to fight it with love and courage . God is everywhere with us for giving us the right direction . Nature and time both are great teachers .  we should learn from it . Bringing a smile on a sad face is a service to society ...........and a rent for living on this planet .
                                        
                                                           

silence

                                                         silence

      we often think  about the silence of mind or peace of mind ......both are different things if we are silent it does not mean the peace of mind . the concept of silence is totally different . the quiteness is not silence , the noiselessness  is not silence  , your inner power has a silent music , a fragrance  that gives us the real  sense of silence .
                             the inner world there is song with out a sound and the mind can never reach there only our inner self can touch there . The mind is always busy with the conflict of thoughts but  in silence there is no verbalization thoughts are absent  so the mind can not operate . A  stillness is there .....no beginning and no end just silence from inside and from outside .
                         The content of this silence can not be measured by words  because  it is a  feeling  of inner self . Meditation is the only key to  open your inner door of consciousness .  A single thought  can disturb  the silence of your mind  just like a single stone  thrown in the  silent  lake .
                              The day you experience the inner silence ..............you will always long for this .
The eternal silence  is there  but you have to feel it